This is my first visit to this site.I love your book. Don’t have the fastlane richness yet; but I do have the fastlane to the perfect marriage. 14 years of happiness, not one fight or blip and never one day of work.

Anybody who says marriage is hard work, discipline and compromise is driving in the slowlane of a relationship. This is the way the Guru’s tell you how it should work :-)

to use your own analogy in regard to marriage i would say:

Question Normal.
Deny Mediocrity.
Live the happy marriage forever right from the start

If you would like to interview me for your next book “The relationship fastlane” let me know :-)

Isn´t true that a sharp businessman/investor is someone who can take crap and make it smell like roses? So if that is true, wouldn´t it then also be true that you could take a crappy and sub-standard relationship and make it smell like roses too? I think it is the same thing. It´s a matter of skill. Skill of meeting needs just as business/investments is about your ability to meet needs skillfully.

MJ talks a lot about process versus event in his book. Good relationships has nothing to do with perfect timing or beautful days, every day of the year. It has everything to do with skillfylly handle all of the bad days (and there will be many of them even in a very good relationship). There will be days when your partner is sick and looks like hell and smells like it too. There will be days when she/he doesn´t gongratulate you on your birthday or remember that you where even home. There will be days when you are our partying and she/he is accidentaly screwing your friend and somehow that has to be dealt with. Relationships is a lot about process. Everyone in a relationship could and should honestly attest to that, because we all know it is true stuff.

So has Hollywood fucked all of us up? You can count on it. What is seen in movies is absolutly not how it really goes down in the “real” movie. I wish. Wouldn´t life be SO much easier if it was like in the romantical movies?

Eventually I said f**k it and started to do what I felt was best. When considering a decision, I drilled down deep and looked at the real cause/bias I had towards making or not making a decision. Most of the time, it was because of an outside influence. I was so concerned about what others thought I sacrificed my own happiness to be approved of by those around me.

Once I came to this realization, it hit me how much freedom and happiness I could derive from just embracing who I was. Basing decisions on what I felt was important and letting go of bondage associated with opinions and belief systems of people who don’t really know me.

We’ve heard our whole lives about “not caring what others think” or “just being yourself” but it takes time and experience and a lot of inner-searching to get to the point where you truly grasp the very essence of what that really means.

Since then I’ve made a lot of different decisions that has changed my life around.

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